Be A People Person - What Draws Others To Me?

WHAT DRAWS OTHERS TO ME?
Understanding what people like about you and why


People Principles

- The key to developing charisma: Be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are in making them feel good about you.

- Traits of a person with charisma;

Concern - What they show.
Help - What they offer.
Action - What they provide.
Results - What they produce.
Influence - What they do.
Sensitivity - What they follow.
Motivation - What they give.
Affirmation - What they share.

- Charisma is a trait or quality in our life that can be developed! The potential lies within each one of us.

Do you want to be a positive influence on others? Five factors come into play:

Who I am - my position or title.
Where I am - my location or job.
Who I know - my sphere of influence. People open doors of opportunity.
What I know - my expertise. This will keep in you in position long after who you know wears off.
What I do - my production, character, credibility.

Roadblocks to CHARISMA

- Pride
- Insecurity
- Moodiness
- Perfectionism
- Oversensitivity
- Negativism


Taken from Be A People Person by John C Maxwell.

Be A People Person - What Draws Me To People?

WHAT DRAWS ME TO PEOPLE?
Understanding the qualities you enjoy in others

If you are a believer in Christ, then you need to be a people person. Jesus exhorts us to love one another (John 13:34). And Apostle John explains that if we truly love God, then we must love our brothers too.
(1 John 4:20-21)

People Principles

- Our success, fulfillment and happiness depends upon our ability to relate to people effectively.

- The key to relating to others is putting yourself in someone else's place instead of putting them in their place.

- Treat people the way you want to be treated:

  Encourage
  Appreciate
  Forgive
  Listen
  Understand

- See people as assets, not adversaries.

- The word "we" is the most important word in the English language.

Ask yourself:

1. Are you quick to respond to others' needs?


2. Do we run from problems or face them?


3. Do we talk more about bad news or good news?


4. Do we give people the benefit of the doubt, or do we assume the worst?

In the Dictionary:

The least important word:
I (gets the least amount done)

The most important word:
We (gets the most amount done) - relationships

The two most important words:
Thank you - appreciation

The three most important words:
All is forgiven - forgiveness

The four most important words:
What is your opinion? - listening

The five most important words:
You did a good job - encouragement

The six most important words:
I want to know you better - understanding





Taken from Be A People Person by John C Maxwell.